Communicate to Transform - Vlog/Blog

This week is an Introduction to the next part of Module 2, part 6 of Out Yourself Wisely in the CONTACT Program — I share the 8 words and phrases NOT to use in sensitive, important or corrective conversations so you become a better friend, spouse, brother, sister, father, mother, relative or leader.

When you avoid the 8 words and phrases in crucial and important conversations, you relationship become more healthy and functional. As a result you get to live in more peace of mind.

That’s what good communicating does. Gives us more peace of mind and healthier relationships.  Good communicating helps us get the job we want. Helps us become better leaders and takes down roadblocks.

If you’re having any of these challenges, becoming a better communicator will help you.

Having conflicts with people at work. Customers, co-workers, etc.  

Fighting with kids, spouse, friends or other people important in your life.

Having a hard time finding a job.

Having a hard time getting promoted.

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This week is an Introduction to the next section of Out Yourself Wisely in the CONTACT Program — The Science of Emotions and Feelings.  Do you want to be a great communicator and leader?

This video will help you better understand emotions and feelings so you can control your spiked emotions and engage others easier.

I want to help you prevent emotional roadblocks to effective communicating, building healthy relationships and living in Peace of Mind. With more understanding of emotions and feelings your ability to control those unwanted emotions and choose your feelings will make you a better friend, spouse, brother, sister, father, mother or leader.

Over the next couple months I’m making a new online multi media, animated CONTACT Communications program. I’m releasing a new video weekly that is part of the program. It’s free as I build the program. Take advantage.

Once it’s complete, it will be a paid product at SuccessToolChest.com offered with a mastermind group support system.

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This is the list of the 26 Enemies in the Jungle of Life.  Napoleon Hill listed them in his last book 'Grow Rich with Peace of Mind'. 

In our journey to live a peaceful and fulfilling life, we are passing through our individual jungle of life and working at defeating these 26 enemies. 

The closer we get to conquering them all, the more peace we feel and the richer we become.

Most of these are negative emotions we struggle to shift. Some are negative thought patterns, and ways of doing things, that trigger negative emotions in ourselves and others. 

Watch the Science of Emotions and Feelings top better understand how they work.

Watch the entire CONTACT Communications  Program for becoming a great communicator and leader, to learn ways to control your negative emotion and be more positive in your communication with self and others. 

1. FEAR
2. GREED
3. INTOLERANCE
4. EGOTISM
5. CRUELTY
6. MERCILESSNESS
7. INJUSTICE
8. SLANDER
9. LUST
10. ANGER
11. HATRED
12. JEALOUSY
13. IMPATIENCE
14. DECEIT
15. FALSEHOOD
16. INSIN
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This is an Introduction  to Out Yourself Wisely - Expressing Feelings accurately and effectively. If you want to be a great leader you will have to get good at expressing yourself effectively to engage others. 

In this week’s animated video I share the importance of sharing feelings accurately and effectively.  

O IN Contact Stands for Out Yourself Wisely. How to share and express effectively. 

There’ s lots to consider when expressing yourself. Do you want to be accurate in expressing yourself? Do you want people to get you?

Expressing feelings and emotions are a big part of connection with others. Learn how to do it effectively in the CONTACT Communications Program for becoming a great communicator and leader.

Introducing the new Animated  CONTACT  Communications Program for Becoming a Great Communicator and Leader.  

If you want to be a great leader you will have to get good at expressing yourself effectively to engage others.  This week’s animated video I share the importance of using ‘We’ and ‘Our’ accurately and effectively and as much as you can.

O IN Contact Stands for Out Yourself Wisely. How to share and express effectively. 

There’ s lots to consider when expressing yourself. When considering using ‘We’ and ‘Our’ vs. “Me’, ‘My’ & ‘I’, the differences are subtle but important.

When do you use “We’ When do you use ‘I’ so you engage people and inspire them or make them feel included and important.

Using I at the wrong time can turn people off, trigger feelings of feeling dismissed or unappreciated. We is inclusive and collaborative. Used appropriately can inspire people to do better. Watch the video and leave me some feedback please. Thanks for watching. Go out and make it an awes...

Introducing O in CONTACT. The Communications Program for Becoming a Great Leader. Out Yourself Wisely. How to share and express effectively.  

There’ s lots to consider when expressing yourself. Get the overview of effective expression and learn the Most Important Rule for Effective Communicating.

If you want to be a great leader you will have to get good at expressing yourself effectively to engage others and influence them.  

When things get intense and ugly, how do we detach so we can calm ourselves, and approach with healthy reason and effectively communicate?

If you want to be a great leader you will have to get good at detachment and Timing when intensity and/or ugliness trigger in an interaction.

In the video below I share a technique and thought pattern for detachment.

One time I had to detach and postpone a conversation was when I was fired at 28 years old.   

The one time I was fired in my life was a difficult period. I was the lone provider. My wife was a stay at home mom and we had 2 kids. Being fired however, become a turning point in my career. I accessed my resilience and started my own business. It was a cellular phone business that I started from the trunk of my car and grew to 3 stores and 3 million in annual revenue before I sold it. I started the business with zero money and no investors. My first business cards were put on a credit card and I leased a car that I worked from. 

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An Introduction to Consciousness Now. 

The first C in CONTACT stands for Consciousness now. Get Aware. What do I get aware of if I want to be a great communicator in tough situations? 

The CONTACT Communications system and the 7 step framework for effective communicating in tough situations will help you become a great communicator.  

Watch the video below.

Help Me Communicate - Introduction to the Animated Multi Media CONTACT Communications Program.

How to inspire people from other cultures, and all your people and teams, to the next level so you shine as a leader in your organization.

First of all, inspiring and motivating people to work harder, safer and more productively has very little to do with culture or where someone comes from. If your prejudice gets in the way it will hinder you so follow what I talked about last week to communicate cross culture then move on to today's five steps which inspire and motivate 99 % of people. The first part of inspiring across cultures is to do the 3 things I talked about last week.

1. Find a feeling of acceptance for difference inside yourself.
2. Be inquisitive. Ask more questions before sharing opinions. Asking questions is critical if you want engagement.  Ask about them, their interests, hobbies, children, family, dislikes. Show genuine interest in them.
3. Look for common denominators. Develop a healthy relationship of mutual respect.

When we do these things we can go to the next step...